A church leader in Florida
has urged parishioners to have sex every day for a month
to help cut America's high divorce rates.
Pastor Paul Wirth, who is taking up the sex marathon challenge
with his wife Susie, said that couples right across the
nation were struggling in their relationships.
For married people he said it seemed like "the sex
is great up front but then for some reason life happens."
But for singles "it's like you're always thinking about
it and you're like, man I'd like to have it as much as possible."
Sometimes that prevented single people from having a great
and healthy relationship later on when they got married.
But Mr Wirth's challenge for his single parishioners is
a little different than that for married couples. He wants
them to abstain from sex for 30 days.
The head pastor of the Relevant Church in Ybor City, outside
Tampa, delivered his 30-day sex challenge to churchgoers
on Sunday during a sermon series on relationships.
He said it was one way of taking on America's 50 per cent
He referred to a recent study out that showed that 20 million
married Americans have sex fewer than 10 times a year.
People's jobs, houses, children and other things tended
to get in the way, he said. He believed that men really
needed to re-evaluate their wife's needs.
"We so often come home and kick off our shoes and pick
up the remote and don't offer to help with dinner, don't
offer to help with the kids -- and then we just expect fireworks
in the bedroom," he told news media.
But husbands needed to meet their wives' needs on intimate
levels, he added.
Pastor Wirth said his 30-days of sex call had attracted
international as well as national attention. This was because
churches had remained silent on the subject of sex for too
"God is the one who talks about love and authors love,
and He knows that He wants us to be intimate and connected
with each other on a daily basis," he said.
The three-year-old Relevant Church says it is a casual,
contemporary Christian church and its services are designed
specifically for urban professionals and young families.
Mr Wirth's previous sermons have included using hit movie
Shrek The Third to explain "what happens when we trust
His latest challenge isn't just about connecting on a physical
basis, he said. Couples have to begin meeting each other's
emotional and spiritual needs, he added. Those taking part
fill out an emotional needs questionnaire that allows their
spouses to see what is lacking and work out how to fulfil
The idea is to help couples refocus on their marriage. While
the challenge is for a month, Pastor Wirth believes the
30 days will lead to a lifetime.
- Feb 25, 2008